Charlotte | 18 | Windsor, England
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I knew I was into girls from the age of about 13. I started looking at girls more and in a way I went through a confused stage of not really knowing what I liked. But girls always caught my eye! Being at an all-girls school made it difficult so I always joined in with the banter about guys and the occasional “ooh he’s good looking” when someone else commented about it. I always used to get called a fat lesbian anyway. I couldn’t have taken it if I had come out then. I am not completely open about it to some of my family but that is just because I am worried about what they will say/do. However I am not all that quiet about it either and I love the fact that I am gay! "Coming out to yourself is the first step, I sort of always knew I was gay. I love the fact I am and I am very proud to embrace it." |
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I had been falling for my best friend, Sam, since the age of about 14 or 15. We had a unique bond and connection and whenever I saw her I was so happy. I always used to get butterflies too! Anyway, my best friend became my girlfriend after about 3 years. I was 17 and she was 16 when it all started with her kissing me and the rest is history, as they say. We got together on the 20th June 2011 and I came out to my parents and other members of my family and friends about a week later. We never really came out to each other; I think that we always knew we liked each other but we weren’t sure? I was always worried to tell her in case I lost all my chances of ever getting with her. Although if we came out at the girls school as a couple, people would have butted in all the time and it would have just been hell!
I didn’t come out until I was 17, I didn’t know many gay people so I couldn’t really speak to people about their experiences of coming out. I could only read stories online about how some people were cool with it and then on the other hand how some parents had thrown their children out. Needless to say when it came to telling my parents I was so worried.
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So after dinner one night I said to my parents I have something to tell you. They said go on and I said… “I’m gay, I like girls and I have a girlfriend. Sam is my girlfriend. Do you still love me?” They didn’t say much so I left and went outside to call my girlfriend and tell her I had told them. With me going outside gave them time to talk about it. My mum came out and gave me a cuddle and said of course I still love you! "Coming out was an amazing feeling! I could finally truly be me and I didn’t have to carry on hiding who I was."For once I just felt free, like a massive weight and worry were gone in an instant! I feel that with being gay/lesbian you are constantly coming out! When you come out to friends, family and co-workers you are never really sure how someone will react. The majority of people I have told are really great about it and it hasn’t changed a thing between my self and them, however there has been the odd person who has found it awkward.
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"The first part is coming out to yourself, once your past that anything is possible! Be happy with who you are, that is all you can be!"
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